Mind Over Matter- How to Get Over FOMO With Beniasha Kharas Dongre

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Guest of the week: Benaisha Kharas Dongre
“You make an impression when you have created a brand of yourself and the best way to create this brand is with your image.”

Benaisha Kharas is an Image Enhancer, Inspirational Speaker, and Fashion Style Expert.

She is passionate about helping her clients project an influential, charismatic, and stylish image in their personal and professional lives. She is the absolute expert in the art and science of personal style and image management. In fact, she is the“go-to Image Builder” for women, young adults, corporates, and fashion houses. At IMPA (Image Management Professionals Association), Benaisha is the only youngest Senior Image consultant to facilitate expert classes across India. Fashion Magnet Anita Dongre highly endorses Benaisha’s expertise and has got her entire sales staff sell fashion and luxury, ‘The Benaisha Way’.

She is India’s youngest internationally certified Image Consultant since 2012, Benaisha has inspired and trained more than 2000 people to be Style, Image, and Fashion Conscious.

She has provided personal consulting to more than 250 HNI clients to present themselves with more poise and polish. Being dyslexic, yet incredibly popular in the media; Benaisha does not let her obstacles come in the way of her dreams. At the tender age of 10 when her teachers told her to go to a special school, she chose to become her own hero and fight for her dreams. She graduated with double majors in sociology and entrepreneurship. After receiving a standing ovation for her TedxTalk, she again inspired thousands at ‘Kaggaz’, a forum for the youth and shared her vision of India’s Young Image. Education Times invited Benaisha to speak and motivate their audience on image and career. Gulf Times has appreciated her work done with Qatar Airways and Indian Women’s Association of Doha. Benaisha also made her presence felt on India’s first image management TV show ‘Image Banani Hein’ on Zoom TV.

Benaisha helps her clients on colour, style, wardrobe editing, personal shopping and dressing for those tricky events like weddings, interviews and dating. She also advises fashion houses on creating delightful customer experiences, artistically sell fashion and luxury, and effortlessly convert walk-ins into shoppers. Corporate Clients like BMW, Qatar Airways, Deloitte, Jeena & Co, and many more count on Benaisha for transforming their executives to be their Brand Ambassadors with strong communication, personal image and influence skills. She is deeply interested in working with differently-abled children to inspire them to lead meaningful lives. She has also helped children who suffer from attention deficit disorder, hyperactivity, and down syndrome to regain their confidence and enhance their self-image.

Benaisha, an avid lover of books, travel, and fashion; lives in Mumbai India.

Excerpts from the Session You can also watch the entire session video here:

https://www.instagram.com/tv/CIx2rH0ADtf/?igshid=ynep9xc32ht1

Today’s topic is pretty interesting, a simple reason being that a lot of people have gone through this and it is famously known as “FOMO”.
So today we’re going to be talking about “The Fear of Missing Out” and how can we really deal with FOMO. Simply because FOMO has been so exaggerated in the last one and a half years, that a lot of us have stopped appreciating a lot of things in our life because of the fear of missing out.

Alright, so let’s dive right into this.

What is FOMO?
FOMO is defined as the nervousness or anxiety that one experiences on missing out on an important event and is regularly triggered by observing and seeing posts on social media.

Getting over the fear of missing out is something we’ve all experienced. You hear about fear of missing out a lot nowadays. It’s not a good thing. Also, it drives you to check internet based life over and over again so you don’t feel aware of present circumstances. It makes things seem insufficient and makes us realise that we don’t have the lives of other people.

It is very basic among twenty to thirty-year-olds and makes individuals feel sad, envious and lonely. Social media is so diverse, and is available to one and all. Today the world is on social media so a lot more people – from early age groups to the senior age groups, all of us go through FOMO. We all experience such feelings some of the time, however, there comes a point when you need to access your condition and stop yourself, otherwise a lot of FOMOs can lead to depression.

If you are one of those millions of people who have FOMO, here are 5 ways you can fight it. They’re not complicated. They are simple and absolutely doable. It is something that I have practised and that’s my recommendation.

• Change your focus

Instead of concentrating on what ‘you need’ in life, try noticing and seeing the things that ‘you have’. Today, a lot of us talk about things like, “I need this” and “I need that”, but somehow, our ‘needs’ stem from our ‘wants’. These are the things that we don’t necessarily need. They are those objects or experiences that we can live without at this given point of time. However, if we keep on channelizing, what it only does to us is it makes us feel insignificant, insufficient and miserable. What we need to focus on is what we have in us and with us. Add progressively positive people in your circle, hide those individuals who, in general, brag excessively or who are not supportive of you. Remember that what you have, is always greater than what you need at this given point of time. Work on identifying what might be sapping your happiness online. Work to minimize these and as you add more to your circle(and life), that satisfies you and makes you happy.

• Deactivate your Social media accounts (If needed)

No doubt deactivating your social media account can be devastating but you can deactivate them for some time, and do so permanently if you feel that it makes a difference in your life. You can also decide to unfollow or unfriend certain people who you think is toxic for you and your mental well being. So let’s keep our account and our following more realistic rather than idealistic.

• Practice Mindfulness

Practicing mindfulness means performing multiple tasks or rushing up the task to get on to the next one is not really worthy. Instead, practice mindfulness by truly living in the moment. If you are someone who is going to be everywhere and mentally right now being nowhere it’s not going to work for you. It is really important to live here now and a lot of us don’t really bother about living here and now. So appreciate the moment that is given to you by the universe and live and value in the current moment of your being!!

• Be kind to yourself

Once in a while, plan an outing with your companions or go solo. Being around nature really quiets your brain and assists you with dealing anxiety. You can go for a walk near to your place to get some fresh air and environment. This will also have a similar impact. Spend some alone time with yourself, understand who you really are, know what works for you and what does not work for you and simply be kind to yourself.

• Search out for genuine and real connections

Feelings of depression or avoidance are our brain’s method of disclosing to us that we need to search out greater connections with others and increase our feelings of belonging.
Unfortunately, social media isn’t generally the best approach to achieve this-you may be running from one bad circumstance directly into an even worse one. Instead of trying to connect more with people via social networking media, why not arrange to get together with somebody face to face?

• Conclusion

The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel. Although FOMO is strongly correlated with social media usage, it is important to remember that it is a very real and common feeling among people of all ages. Everyone feels a certain level of FOMO at different times in their lives.

If you feel you are suffering from feelings of missing out, it can be helpful to reach out to a friend or spend some time reflecting on the things you are grateful for in your life. Activities like these can help us put things in perspective as we gather a greater sense of belonging and release the anxiety of “missing out” on anything.

Footnote
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