Mind Over Matter- Learn Coping with Change With Beniasha Kharas Dongre

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Guest of the week: Benaisha Kharas Dongre

“You make an impression when you have created a brand of yourself and the best way to create this brand is with your image.”

Benaisha Kharas is an Image Enhancer, Inspirational Speaker, and Fashion Style Expert.

She is passionate about helping her clients project an influential, charismatic, and stylish image in their personal and professional lives. She is the absolute expert in the art and science of personal style and image management. In fact, she is the“go-to Image Builder” for women, young adults, corporates, and fashion houses. At IMPA (Image Management Professionals Association), Benaisha is the only youngest Senior Image consultant to facilitate expert classes across India. Fashion Magnet Anita Dongre highly endorses Benaisha’s expertise and has got her entire sales staff sell fashion and luxury, ‘The Benaisha Way’.

She is India’s youngest internationally certified Image Consultant since 2012, Benaisha has inspired and trained more than 2000 people to be Style, Image, and Fashion Conscious.

She has provided personal consulting to more than 250 HNI clients to present themselves with more poise and polish. Being dyslexic, yet incredibly popular in the media; Benaisha does not let her obstacles come in the way of her dreams. At the tender age of 10 when her teachers told her to go to a special school, she chose to become her own hero and fight for her dreams. She graduated with double majors in sociology and entrepreneurship. After receiving a standing ovation for her TedxTalk, she again inspired thousands at ‘Kaggaz’, a forum for the youth and shared her vision of India’s Young Image. Education Times invited Benaisha to speak and motivate their audience on image and career. Gulf Times has appreciated her work done with Qatar Airways and Indian Women’s Association of Doha. Benaisha also made her presence felt on India’s first image management TV show ‘Image Banani Hein’ on Zoom TV.

Benaisha helps her clients on colour, style, wardrobe editing, personal shopping and dressing for those tricky events like weddings, interviews and dating. She also advises fashion houses on creating delightful customer experiences, artistically sell fashion and luxury, and effortlessly convert walk-ins into shoppers. Corporate Clients like BMW, Qatar Airways, Deloitte, Jeena & Co, and many more count on Benaisha for transforming their executives to be their Brand Ambassadors with strong communication, personal image and influence skills. She is deeply interested in working with differently-abled children to inspire them to lead meaningful lives. She has also helped children who suffer from attention deficit disorder, hyperactivity, and down syndrome to regain their confidence and enhance their self-image.

Benaisha, an avid lover of books, travel, and fashion; lives in Mumbai India.

Excerpts from the Session

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Coping with change with different phrases

It is said that change is constant! Change is around all of us. Changing as per the situation requires time and is a little difficult but you can deal with it if you take mindful steps. The question arises- where is our attention when the change is happening? Do we really focus on the change? The fact is we went out there trying to fix the world without fixing ourselves. Changing the outer world without knowing the inner us can create complications in the mind. 

We always remain worried about how things would pan out without really looking what’s happening within ourself. There are always 2 changes that occurred in a situation- one is outside and one is inside. We always focus on the outer change because that is something we can see but we cannot see the change that is happening within us and sometimes even we see the change that is happening within us, we tend to not accept that change very easily. We see the word “change” as a negative thing and that is what always stops us from accepting it.

It is no wrong to say that our internal change is our choice, not the external change. And the moment you start understanding that what lies outside you is not controllable but what lies inside you is controllable can help you in accepting the things in a better way. So, change is our choice that happens within. Change is good and sometimes it’s for the better.

It is said that our inner world creates our outer world. Whatever you think in the mind is what you transcend on the outside. It is really really important to make the right choices to process the right thoughts inside us and change is a by-product of everything we imbibe and everything that we practice. The way we think will affect the way we feel and that will affect the way we behave and how others will react and respond to us. Sister Shivani says: “Sanskar se sansar banta h.” What you think makes your world.

We have the choice to choose! Always make sure that whenever you are looking for a change you are not seeing it as a bad way. Positive change only comes when you change your attitude and mindset in a happy and meaningful way. “We all want a positive change but we don’t want to change” is something majorly seen in the people. For example, a fit body requires a change in your eating habits, exercising routine and your lifestyle. If you just lay down and don’t want to change yourself then you will never get a fit body.

7 ways how to deal with change?

• Acknowledge that things are changing
• Don’t stress about stressing out
• Focus on your values instead of your fears (remind yourself what is important to you)
• Don’t expect stability from outside but create it inside
• Accept your past but fight for your future
• Accept and refrain (view is as an opportunity to learn and grow)

Footnote

Change is part of our lives. Not accepting it or fearing from it can only hamper you. Dealing with change requires a positive mind-set and the power to accept and understand that change is happening. Only by accepting it, you will be able to take steps that help you in coping with it.

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